Please note the absence from my New Year's Day post yesterday of pictures of adorable child playing with homemade playdoh. Because despite my best efforts at crunchy "mama"ing*, stirring up what was a pretty good batch of squidgy orange goop (from this recipe) Mister G was not interested. He didn't even try to eat it, certainly didn't want to play with it? UNimpressed.
And when I persisted (I can happily accept when he hates some dinner I've made, but my triumphant playdoh? try poking it, just a bit, see?) his apathy upgraded to a pronounced antipathy - he hesitantly pushed his finger into the still-warm, squishiness (okay, now it sounds gross, but it was actually so nice) and promptly burst into tears. Parent of 2013 here, already.
No more pinterest-parenting for a minute.
Instead, today we spin.
*a side note: I can't be the only one that has a heaving visceral reaction to the internet's obsession with women calling themselves a "mama", not mum, mother or mom or anything else, right? It just seems so false for the most part. I guess PA is right, that I could just stop looking at those blogs, but I probably won't because I'm the worst.
ETA: I feel like a bit of a dick now - of course, 'mama' is just as real as 'mum', 'mom' etc if that's what children call someone... I think I was trying to denote a certain type of life-is-always-superlative-roses-and-unicorns-and-lipstick-and-cupcakes-and-FUN! blog that it seems to be the moniker of choice for, and that doesn't really jibe with me but that I have nobody but myself to blame for reading. It's just a terminology that I'm slightly uncomfortable with. I did say I was the worst. Do I even go here?
It makes more sense when that's what your kid calls you. I can't imagine wanting to call myself a mama once they've stopped though.
ReplyDeleteMaybe Mama Cass, but otherwise me neither.
DeleteYou're right, I'm sure it does (in fact, definitely - otherwise why would I think mum / mom were acceptable. so brains)...I just got a lot of 'I'm a Mama!' 'don't mess with a mama bear's cubs!' 'I <3 Mamahood' in my feed the last few days. I shouldn't be obnoxious though.
In any event, I have caught myself referring to myself, in the third person, as "Mummy" when the kid is nowhere around. Eep.
wtf blogs are you reading??
Deletewait, no. don't tell me.
DeleteI was raised in a very anti-mama house. I wasn't allowed to say anything but "mom" or even "mother." So, to me, mama seemed very desirable in a warm, babyish way. I vowed that my kids could call me whatever they wanted. But, I have to admit, now that I actually have kids I'm kind of glad they didn't carry "mama" past the very early toddler years. It just isn't the right fit for me. But I totally get why someone might prefer it.
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